Darling, Keep Your Head Up
You’re better off without them
Thank God they left!
(This is not about toxic or abusive relationships, but quite the opposite.)
We all have the story of being abandoned by someone we love. And it feels like the end of the world every time. We wanted to share our lives with that person, build a loving home, raise an even lovelier family, and make our dreams come true.
But nothing gets in the way better than life. Whatever the reason, at some point we got separated and we thought this was the most painful feeling in the world.
I’ve been heartbroken so many times I’m now ready for the Olympics. But who hasn’t?! Where does all this come from? I’ve been wondering if there is one true soulmate for all of us and if we are lucky enough our paths would cross. But I was mistaken.
You know how they teach us that putting all our eggs in one basket is wrong?
I think the same goes for the people in our lives. And no, I don’t mean what you think I mean, so bear with me.
This happened to me recently.
I met the most amazing human being and I just knew right then and there. No doubt! (Obviously, I didn’t know shit but that’s not the point.)
I thought I would never be able to feel those feelings for another person again (after my last relationship — classic), and this made me believe they were the one.
Damn!
But I wouldn’t trade this hurt for the world because I realized the most important thing about myself! I knew right there and then:
I was looking for myself inside of you. I put you on a pedestal because I needed the love I was giving away.
I felt those words coming out on the surface from the deepest and hidden parts of me and this is how I knew they were true. That’s when I realized what self-love means.
I know it’s hard. It sucks and Lord knows how long it might take.
They could be the most loving human being, making it even harder to let go. But trust me, whatever you saw in them, you had it in you. You just thought you needed them but all they were doing was reciprocating your beautiful self.
You were looking for yourself in all of them.
And so, here you are.
Spread some love today,
U. A.