3 Types Of People Around You Who Are Killing Your Chances Of Success And Your Self-Respect
Environment is crucial if you want to upgrade your life.
“Some people are in such utter darkness that they will burn you just to see a light. Try not to take it personally.”
― Kamand Kojouri
I’m sure you have specific names in mind, don’t you?
Whether it’s a family member, a close friend of yours, a coworker, a partner, etc., you should look out for these traits in the people around you, if you want to take it to the next level:
1. The “moral guru”
We all have someone in our life who just always knows what is the right thing to do or not to do.
A-L-W-A-Y-S.
It’s like you can’t just randomly share some experience with them because you are about to be “mentored” without even asking for it.
It’s pretty annoying and very often after our interaction with them we feel as if we’ve done the wrong thing, but we can’t get annoyed, because “they just wanted to help”.
Oftentimes we feel incapable of making our own decisions because of those people and we think we need them to tell us what to do. (Or not to do.)
A small tip: Do what you want. It’s brave to admit you don’t have all the answers.
2. The person who thinks life is their enemy
Life has more important work to do than being someone’s nemesis.
Usually, those people are the ones who are constantly trying to convince us that sooner or later we will be defeated by the Universe and there is no point in building and creating a beautiful life for ourselves.
They believe that we are meant to suffer, clear karma, and just stay where we are no matter how hopeless the situation is.
After such a short conversation you can literally feel like everything is pointless.
A small tip: It is not. Every step and breath counts. Keep going and leave those people behind.
3. The one who knows the right answer but keeps asking the question
Every one of us needs help and support at certain times.
We are a communicative and emotionally connected species that need one another.
But we also need to do the work once we become aware of the actions that we need to take.
The truth is those kinds of people just want to have the answer to their problem, without actually solving it.
Knowing why something happened is enough for them because they don’t mind repeating the same patterns.
They also don’t mind constantly complaining and wasting your valuable time just to feel heard and victimized.
This is not real friendship or authentic human connection. Be aware of how you spend your precious moments, make them count.
If you don’t see any progress or potential for moving forward, step back without feeling guilty and leave them be.
A small tip: Pay attention to those who deeply appreciate your advice and the life lessons you are sharing with them. Action is key. We will never get the same moment twice. Take care of your time and energy.
If we don’t want to feel sorry for ourselves after each “catching up”, these are the relationships we should have and nourish:
People who want your success as much as their own
The ones who are willing to laugh at themselves but try again
Someone who loves being on the battlefield with their own mind for the sake of growth
People who stay on track
Creative souls who see life as a blank space
The ones driven by passion and curiosity
And so many more. I would be interested in hearing about your experiences with different kinds of people and what they taught you.
Stay authentic and alone until the right ones come along! 🎉